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I went to my high school grad with a car thief…

I went to my high school grad with a car thief by the name of Chick. I smile as I say this; this news might be a little startling to the friends I graduated with back then. On the other … Continue reading

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Avoiding vulnerability – friendship lost + found

There is value in being open and vulnerable*, and a price to pay for avoiding it.  When I look back, ‘avoiding’ is what I was doing when I tried to cover up my imperfections, or tried to make a good … Continue reading

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Different drummer

“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away. It is not important that he should … Continue reading

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Omar

Omar.   He spoke English, French, German Arabic and Russian well, and a few others passably.   Born in Jordan of ‘ethnic Russian’ parents, he was my ‘exotic flame’. Omar’s passion at the time was writing plays, and he supported himself as … Continue reading

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Lost friends #1

There’s a ‘Pennsylvania Dutch’ saying I like: “We grow too soon old, and too late smart”.  And of course we never stop hearing “Hindsight is 20/20”.  We’re all familiar with the idea that we can’t seem to gather up any … Continue reading

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A habit of self-defeat….

I was thinking about my life-long love of ‘discussion’, when it struck me that focusing on a subject in solitude was more productive and rewarding, because there is more time and space to dwell on each thought that arises, with … Continue reading

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Longing, before…

When I was young, longing was a weakness – a character flaw.  One would sooner express anything embarrassing, than admit to any kind of longing. Instead we admitted nothing,  closed our eyes in the dark, and listened to the poetry … Continue reading

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Sensing…

Starting with silence. Let us not fill up the air between us With nouns and verbs and adjectival phrases Trying to build a bridge, Trying to touch. Let us simply sense, What there is to sense. Even A potential sigh. … Continue reading

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Open = Danger?

How open can I be? What are the dangers? Is being open a little like standing out on a balcony and shouting out to the world a plea to be rescued from myself? Is being open a pretense, a wish … Continue reading

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Openness = vulnerability?

They say that if you want to be an interesting writer, you have to be ready to bare your soul. Forget about hiding in the bushes as usual – no, here above all, you have to write at the most … Continue reading

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