Category Archives: parenting

Brave parents & the progress torch

I’ve just finished reading a special chapter in a special book* – and it still shimmers in my consciousness.   Chapter One – Dancing in the eye of the Storm – was written by Kathy Witterick, someone I’m proud to call … Continue reading

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A is for Antoinette*

It’s six months since my friend Antoinette died, and I think it’s probably okay to ‘tell her story’ now.  I mean it’s not likely that breaking confidentiality is relevant.  The chances of someone who knew her discovering I’ve ‘told’ are … Continue reading

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Avoiding vulnerability – friendship lost + found

There is value in being open and vulnerable*, and a price to pay for avoiding it.  When I look back, ‘avoiding’ is what I was doing when I tried to cover up my imperfections, or tried to make a good … Continue reading

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My “pedophile” experience

My ‘pedophile experience’   began with a cute little nine month old baby called David.  And it began in the park.  I was ten and living in LaSalle, Quebec. In those days most kids had the freedom to roam about the … Continue reading

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“A Hard Name” – the documentary

The other night, for the second time in a week, I watched the TV Ontario  documentary A Hard Name.*  No doubt I’ll watch it again.  This is unusual behavior for me, but I know I’ll realize something new yet again, … Continue reading

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Lost friends #1

There’s a ‘Pennsylvania Dutch’ saying I like: “We grow too soon old, and too late smart”.  And of course we never stop hearing “Hindsight is 20/20”.  We’re all familiar with the idea that we can’t seem to gather up any … Continue reading

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We all have something worth sharing.

It’s so much easier to see flaws in others, to see how they need to change, than to see ourselves. I can spot a critical-judgmental response in a friend or relative, and have a hard time noticing it in myself. … Continue reading

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