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Thinking about ‘critical-judgmental’…
I posted this on Facebook recently*: “Ploughing through the shock-value, mud and bugs in the swamp of this gentleman’s lifestyle/behaviour, I was rewarded by the Precious inside him…. Smells like integrity to me – a quality I profoundly respect and … Continue reading
Posted in awareness, beliefs, consciousness, criticism, judgment, personal growth, psychology, reflections
Tagged acceptance, critical-judgmental, mindfulness, personal growth, religion
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Lost friends #1
There’s a ‘Pennsylvania Dutch’ saying I like: “We grow too soon old, and too late smart”. And of course we never stop hearing “Hindsight is 20/20”. We’re all familiar with the idea that we can’t seem to gather up any … Continue reading
Posted in communication, fear, friendship, judgment, parenting, personal growth, psychology, reflections
Tagged communication, feelings, friends, openness, personal growth
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Note to a friend #1
I get the sense that – like me – you are triggered to feel like an embarrassed child when someone is giving you information – as if you feel somehow that you “should already know” it, so you feel inadequate, … Continue reading
Posted in consciousness, criticism, Feelings, friendship, judgment, personal growth, personal power, reflections
Tagged consciousness, feelings, friends, personal growth, power, psychology, reflections
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Reality check…
Here’s a sad but true fact of life: everyone farts, and no one looks good flossing. Once you accept that reality, the world is your oyster. You can look in the mirror, and realize you are perfectly normal. No matter what. … Continue reading
Posted in consciousness, experience, fear, Feelings, ignorance, judgment, personal power, Reflection, reflections
Tagged choices, feelings, ignorance, power, reflections, values
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A habit of self-defeat….
I was thinking about my life-long love of ‘discussion’, when it struck me that focusing on a subject in solitude was more productive and rewarding, because there is more time and space to dwell on each thought that arises, with … Continue reading
Posted in communication, consciousness, criticism, fear, Feelings, judgment, personal power, public speaking, reflections
Tagged openness, power, psychology, public speaking, reflections, self-criticism, vulnerability
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We all have something worth sharing.
It’s so much easier to see flaws in others, to see how they need to change, than to see ourselves. I can spot a critical-judgmental response in a friend or relative, and have a hard time noticing it in myself. … Continue reading
Posted in criticism, fear, judgment, parenting, personal power, public speaking, reflections, Uncategorized
Tagged parenting, public speaking, reflections, social commentary
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The ‘new normal’
Years ago, during my last therapy session with a well-known psychiatrist, I asked her if she had ever known a “normal” person. She looked puzzled, and slightly annoyed. “I mean someone who has no neuroses, no issues, needed no therapy?” … Continue reading
Posted in community, ignorance, Inclusion, judgment, reflections, values
Tagged choices, community, ignorance, inclusion, refledctions, values
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Father soup….
“Darkness brings home fathers, with their real, unspeakable power.” – Margaret Atwood, Cat’s Eye. In his book The Measure of a Man, J.J. Lee refers to the idea that the more we try not to be like our father, the … Continue reading
Posted in consciousness, experience, fear, judgment, parenting, Reflection, reflections
Tagged fathering, fathers, husbands, marry father, psychology, relationships
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Openness = vulnerability?
They say that if you want to be an interesting writer, you have to be ready to bare your soul. Forget about hiding in the bushes as usual – no, here above all, you have to write at the most … Continue reading
Posted in consciousness, criticism, experience, judgment
Tagged honesty, openness, opinion, reflecting, vulnerability
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Thinking and Dreaming 
“Normal”
Most of us float through life assuming we are ‘normal’. If we ever wonder about it, that might happen in our teens – when we’re likely to experience self doubt or at least think about the concept of ‘normality’ (Americans … Continue reading →