Category Archives: reflections

The auntie thing…

As my nephew and I sat on the back deck drinking beer, watching the trees, and discussing the state of the world, I remembered my relationship with Aunt Mabel, when I was his age – mid twenties. We’ve lived nearby … Continue reading

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Moms + family cultures

This being Mother’s Day, I posted a photo of my Mom on Facebook.  I found myself remembering mothers I once knew.  Of course, we’re talking about the Father-Knows-Best/Ozzie-and-Harriet era, when moms were always there for you, always had wise answers … Continue reading

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My tender cafe

How precious is the kindness and gentleness that surrounds me every day.  I treasure it.  It is part of a sub-culture hard to find in many places.  I think that’s why I head here every morning.  I can’t imagine a … Continue reading

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What’s in a name?

People change their names for so many reasons.  I first became aware of this with women I knew who changed their names as a part of their working through experience of abuse. Then there are those who have felt oppressed … Continue reading

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Neighbourhood fascists?

I’m sitting across from someone who should know better, but he says “Well I don’t want tall buildings either!”  We’ve been talking about the need for densification to reduce urban sprawl, slow down gentrification and increase affordability – my favourite … Continue reading

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Grammar, authoritarianism and me…

In my life, “Grammar” has been very much related to authoritarianism.  I’m currently enjoying Eats, Shoots and Leaves, and it has brought back memories of my  relationship to grammar. Growing up in a relatively authoritarian society meant that we had … Continue reading

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Thinking about ‘critical-judgmental’…

I posted this on Facebook recently*: “Ploughing through the shock-value, mud and bugs in the swamp of this gentleman’s lifestyle/behaviour, I was rewarded by the Precious inside him…. Smells like integrity to me – a quality I profoundly respect and … Continue reading

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